Self-Esteem
Presented by: Dr. Dawn-Elise Snipes
Executive Director, AllCEUs
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Objectives
~ The Nature of Self-Esteem
~ Identifying and Disarming the Critic
~ Creating an Accurate Self Assessment
~ Identifying Cognitive Distortions
~ Developing Compassion
~ Shaking the Shoulds
~ Handling Mistakes
~ Responding to Criticism
~ Goal Setting
~ Core Beliefs
~ Building Self Esteem in Children
The Nature of Self-Esteem
~ How you feel about yourself in contrast to who you think you “should” be
~ The more rejecting we are of ourselves, the more
~ Distress we experience
~ We seek external validation
~ In order to develop healthy relationships people need to feel good about themselves
The Pathological Critic
~ Arsenal of shoulds
~ Origin of the Critic: Conditions of Worth
~ Why you listen to the critic
~ The role of reinforcement
~ Catching your critic
~ Unmasking his purpose
~ Talking back
Accurate Self-Assessment
~ Self-Concept inventory
~ Listing your strengths and weaknesses
~ Developing a new self-description
~ Celebrating your strengths
Cognitive Distortions
~ The distortions
~ Combating the distortions
Compassion
~ Compassion defined
~ Creating a compassionate world
~ The problem of worth
~ Developing compassion for others
The Shoulds
~ How values are formed
~ The tyranny of should
~ Healthy vs. Unhealthy values
~ How should affects your self esteem
~ Challenging and revising your shoulds
~ Atonement—When shoulds make sense
Handling Mistakes
~ Reframing mistakes
~ The problem of awareness
~ Raising your mistake consciousness
Responding to Criticism
~ The myth of reality
~ Responding to criticism
~ Putting it all together
Asking for What You Want
~ Legitimate needs
~ Needs vs. wants
~ Wants inventory
~ Wants into words
~ Whole messages
Goal Setting and Planning
~ What do you want
~ Selecting goals
~ Making your goals SMART
~ Making a commitment
~ Blocks to achieving goals
Core Beliefs
~ Identifying Core Beliefs
~ Developing new core beliefs
Building Self-Esteem in Children
~ The power of parents
~ Parents as mirrors
~ Look at your child
~ Listening
~ The language of self-esteem
~ Discipline
~ Autonomy
~ Modeling self-esteem
Summary
~ Self esteem begins in childhood
~ It is imperative to help people separate strengths and weaknesses from who they are
~ Self loathing and rejection contributes to dysphoria
~ Part of self esteem development includes
~ Values identification
~ Understanding wants vs. needs
~ Addressing cognitive distortions